Troubled waters…

The last few weeks things have been quite hard in several aspects of my life! I had to find out the hard way that people I thought were friends, turned out to be frenemies! I’m not so sure that there a worse kind of hurt than that of betrayal, at least for me! But the thing is, there will always be troubled waters in one way or another and life will never be perfect!

When I realized that I was being ostracized, I cried! I had a lot of grief, then the grief turned to anger! Now? It is what it is. And looking back these very same people have been doing exactly what they did to me to other people–I was just too blind to see it! I was too close to the situation! I didn’t want to believe that they were “unhealthy” to be around! And unfortunately for me, I played right into their hand of allowing myself to be their next victim.

Cutting ties is never easy! But for my own sake, it’s better than keeping fake friends in my circle! Being a victim of other people’s misery will always suck! But I’m hoping that somewhere around the corner there is an answer as to why I had to endure this type of troubled waters!

Regardless of the reason, I have to remind myself that there is something wrong with them, not me! I have to remember that sometimes people are so unhappy with their own life, that they don’t know how to be a good friend to others! And sometimes, just sometimes, there won’t be a “reason” at all!

Regardless if it is in your friendships, relationships, or marriage……we are not guaranteed to be free of troubled waters! The true question is, how do we get through these times of hardships? How do we react when our hearts hurt because of how others have behaved? Well, I’m still trying to figure this out!

What I do know is, it is up to me to let go instead of getting burned by continuing to hang on to the rope! Letting go will always be scary! The unknown will always be uncomfortable! But I’m SLOWLY learning that there is always something better around the corner! If what I have to offer isn’t good enough for a particular group of people, then they aren’t my people! I wasn’t meant for them–and because I’m a social butterfly, that’s hard to accept!

Always remember, you have to let go of what isn’t meant to be before you accept the next big thing! It won’t always be easy! It is likely that it will hurt, but in the end, you will have peace like you’ve never known!

So when troubles come, remind yourself that something better is on its way! You’ll be glad you did!