If you’ve never watched the movie Mean Girls with Lindsay Lohan, it’s worth you’re time, in my opinion! It’s a very disturbing movie, however, there is so much truth and honesty when it comes to how girls (and some women) interact with each other. Basically, it shows you how conniving females can be! What’s really sad though, is how sly girls are becoming when it comes to tearing others down. And we all know that social media isn’t helping anything! My heart hurts because it just seems like no matter how hard we fight the good fight, the voices of reason aren’t being heard! Some females can’t hear the positive over the negative connotations they have to face on a daily basis! Some females don’t know which voice is the truth and which one is a lie! Then there are those females who just don’t WANT to hear it because it’s what they’ve been taught and they get a kick out of the misery that comes with being M.E.A.N, whether it bites them in the 888 or not!
Let me just say, when I was in my teens me and my best friend (LYLAS) were probably considered to be MEAN girls from certain people. The things is though, we weren’t the ones picking on others…….we just didn’t allow others to get away with whatever shade they were throwing in our direction. And for the record, we NEVER got in an actual fight with anyone! But it was well known around the school that if we were mad, it was probably best to avoid us in that moment! And listen y’all, I’m talking a school that had approx. 50 students per grade. So it’s not like it took much action to get noticed. My point is, I think everybody probably has times in their lives that their not proud of. And I hope that all of my female friends will pass on some sound advice and that is…….DO NOT BE A M.E.A.N GIRL (OR ADULT)!!!! AKA
Manipulating Exploiting Annihilating Narcissistic Girl
I’m sure some of you are wondering why I’m writing about 1. MEAN Girls and 2. Why I keep referring to women or adults. I’m glad you asked! First of all, I think we all need to do a self-check and see if there is any part of us that can OR WILL admit that we have worn the entire outfit of being a MEAN person in our life (guilty). But really, I’m talking about recently (guilty again), not just when you were young and dumb! Then, I think you need to look at your daughters, nieces, granddaughters and evaluate how they treat others. And I don’t just mean their friends! How do they treat the ‘underdogs’ or the ‘less fortunate’ or the ‘outcast’ or the ones who just don’t fit into their category of ‘style’? How do they treat the girls that they were once friends with, regardless of why there was a “falling out?” If it is with anything except decency, I personally, would be very alarmed and concerned! As a parent, it is my job to teach my children humanity! If I’m teaching them anything other than how to love others, even if it’s from a distance, then I have failed them!
The other reason I decided to go ahead and write this blog is because I have been wrapped up in some M.E.A.N Girl stuff of my own, very recently. You know by now that I have no reason to lie, so here it goes. There has been some situations that I have allowed myself to get caught up in, and unfortunately it’s been on more than just an occasion or two. I am kind of one of those people who doesn’t do well with snarky, so I may or may not have found a way to get under her skin all while continuing to be “professional”!!! But when it comes down to it, it’s been straight up ugliness from both sides of the keyboard! Hence the phrase “or women” and “or adults”. NO…..I’m not proud that I played into her games! Yes, I know what I need to do! YES, I’m big enough to admit my part AND I’m big enough to be the better person when I don’t agree with someone else’s particular ways of doing things. Is it fun? Of course not! Will I let others run over me? HELL NO! But at this point, the person who wins is the person who can walk away with their head held high knowing they tried their best! I plan on being that person! I am only hurting myself and allowing myself to be bogged down with someone else’s baggage and I’m done! But bantering back and forth via social platforms is ridiculous, especially when you’re my age! So I’m hoping that I can help someone by telling you, it’s not worth it!
For those who have the mindset of “that’s what they get” or “it was deserved” then YOU are part of the problem! If you are a mom who is teaching your child that it’s okay to be a M.E.A.N Girl, then honey, we need to talk. Our children have enough to endure on their own and adding head games to the table just isn’t okay! Being rude, disrespectful, full of rumors and lies is not really how you want others to perceive you or your child, is it? And you should really take into account that once it goes on social media, there is no turning back! Sure, you can apologize! But once it’s been posted, you can bet that a screenshot was taken and it will forever be “in the cloud”.
Admitting our mistakes and faults can be hard! I don’t know if I’m learning how to do it easier because I can tell a world full of strangers whose opinion doesn’t matter? Or if I’m really learning how to be a “big girl”!!! But either way, I don’t think making the mistake of ‘been there, done that’ is the problem! The problem is when you continue to allow yourself to be the M.E.A.N Girl and have no desire to change!
“No one is perfect, no not one!” BUT we can emulate the good we hope to see in the world! And what better way to leave our mark on others, if you (and I) will “love your enemies and do good to those who hate you” we can be world changers! So what do you say? Let’s BE THE CHANGE, TOGETHER!!!
Enjoy Every Moment 