When you are: Fully Aware ‘of’ Keeping Everyone ‘guessing’ with everything you do and/or say…….you may be FAKE!
If you have met me, then you know I am definitely one of those people that says whatever comes to mind! I have no problem telling others “how I really feel” AND I am typically the person who vomits what everyone else is thinking! **this isn’t ALWAYS a good thing!
I’ve never been good at pretending, and I really have no desire to be anything other than real! See, I would rather have a small circle of friends and know I can be myself rather than try to be liked by a large group of people and have to put up some facade that is absolutely exhausting! Because trying to pretend that I have this perfect life, with a perfect marriage, with perfect kids, and a perfect job couldn’t be further from the truth! Then on top of trying to pretend that nothing ever goes wrong and I never have problems….that just isn’t me! Don’t get me wrong! I love my family, my marriage, my kids and I even love my job! But not ONE SINGLE ASPECT is perfect! At all!
I want to be clear here! Being cordial and respectful is completely different than being F.A.K.E! I don’t make friends real easily (I know you’re so shocked), but I can totally walk by a colleague with a smile and keep going! Now if I stop to have a conversation and start asking, “how’s the family?” Then I’m being FA.K.E! NO–I don’t do this! I don’t wish bad things upon people, but I can guarantee that I won’t be stopping for small talk when there’s a clash!
But what I’m talking about is how some people have no problem carrying on these little chit chats only to turn around and say something unkind about the exact same person! I’ve seen it happen again and again. I think this is the very definition of “hypocrite”!
And maybe I have this whole blog wrong! Maybe being F.A.K.E is what the world wants! Maybe they want you to pretend to care about them! Maybe they want you to hold hands and sing kumbaya around a bonfire and tell each other your deepest secrets! The problem with that is, I guarantee you, one if not both of the parties would not be honest! Why? Because one, if not both, are being F.A.K.E! So why give them ammo to go and say things that you thought would be kept confident?! It isn’t worth it! I promise!
I dont know about you, but I dont handle F.A.K.E people real well! Again, I can be cordial. But I’m talking about the people who ACT like they care! Or the ones who give unsolicited advice in the name of “trying to help”! And even the ones who pretend they’re apologizing but always find a way to not! You know, the ones who say, “I’m sorry, but…” or the classic “I didn’t know you were offended”, type thing! So basically where words come out of their mouth and none of it is actually a genuine apology!
If you are a F.A.K.E type of person then you should know that, other people tend to pick up on this type of behavior real quick. Eventually the joke is on you, because everyone is trying to figure out and asking, “why are YOU being nice?”. It’s one of those things where, if you’re not going to be genuine, then don’t pretend AT ANY TIME to act like you care! Its disturbing!!! You’re better off to keep going and try doing the cordial thing where you just smile and go on.
And just so I’m clear: if you are typically mean, snotty, rude, disrespectful, unprofessional to others on the daily, but then decide to TRY and carry on a random conversation, you are probably considered F.ully A.ware ‘of’ K.eeping E.veryone ‘guessing’! Do NOT be this person!
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