You Matter

Have you ever got the feeling that you aren’t liked, loved, or even wanted? Have you ever sat and cried because you’ve wondered if the world would be better off without you? Have you ever wished you could have a complete redo in life from the very get go? Because I have! I have absolutely been there done that on every single level! It’s not fun! In fact, it downright sucks! I don’t care how you look at it and you can spare me the, “those aren’t your people” speech because true or not, it still hurts! I’m still human! And believe it or not, I have feelings!

What I’ve really had to work through my whole life and what I’ve had to learn is the same thing I’m going to say to you: YOU MATTER! I can promise you that it took me over hundred times once I started counseling before I finally allowed myself to think it, say it, and believe it! In fact, if I’m real and honest with you, I ALWAYS thought, said, and believed the opposite! I DIDN’T MATTER! And it didn’t matter whose opinion I was looking at this from! I didn’t matter to my parents (my mom was ill so she doesn’t count), I didn’t matter to my siblings (with the exception of my older brother), I didnt matter to my husband (I’ve always allowed myself to believe this lie), nor did I matter to anybody else in my life!

Thankfully, after several years of counseling, she helped me to understand that the negative thinking was from the enemy! She helped me to see that those negative thoughts that were continuously rolling around in my head, were NOT TRUE! And I hope that by the end of this blog, you too will understand that YOU DO MATTER!

There is absolutely power in our mind and thoughts! The way we think and speak about ourselves, that’s how others will see us! Basically, we set the stage for how we will be viewed by others. Example: My step dad never attended our school activities or church. His famous saying was, “I’m fat and people will stare.” Well, as a child the last thing that was on the forefront of my brain was him being “fat”! But because he used it as an excuse to miss EVERYTHING, I began to see him as a “fat person”, because that was how he trained me to think ABOUT HIM!

Unfortunately, this set a pattern for the way I thought about myself as well as others, at times! But mainly I saw myself as unworthy! Unworthy of love! Unworthy of relationships! Even unworthy of being happy! And when you go years of believing you have no worth, it takes a toll on your mind and on your emotions!

So I’m here to tell you, you are worthy! You are worthy of being loved, cared for, and wanted! You matter to more people than you realize! And if you were to leave, somebody’s world would fall apart! You have to find a way to speak positivity to yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY! You MUST find a way to show others that you won’t tolerate being deemed as less than! You MUST find the strength to use your own voice to speak the truth about yourself! YOU DO MATTER! To accept anything less, would be cheating yourself!

There are still times where I fall back into the trap of depression and anxiety and allow myself to forget that I DO MATTER! But I also make phone calls or plan coffee dates with the people in my life that I know will help build me back up! Life is hard and its extremely easy to fall into the realm of negative thinking! But YOU AND I BOTH need to look in the mirror each day and remind ourselves that WE DO MATTER! I don’t care how ridiculous you think you look, you know you already talk to yourself when no ones around, so this shouldn’t be too much! Close the door, look in the mirror and repeat the following over and over: I matter! I am worthy! I am loved! I am enough! Then go and live your life according to everyone of those lines! Because you do matter! You are worthy! You are loved! And you are enough!