I think we all know, there are just some things that you should not do! Even if you don’t want friends and you’re a hermit, there are still things that should be a given! Unfortunately, there really are some people out there who wonder why their social life is nonexistent as well as why coworkers pass them by with just a smile. **full disclosure, I’ve been there done that on every level** so I get to give advice! You can take it or leave it, but I will say that I was a very unhappy person during the times I chose to be toxic! Looking back, I wish I had known how much smoother friendships and/or relationships could have been!
Blaming: let’s talk about this! If you are one of those who always find a way or a reason to blame everyone around you, you’re toxic! Admitting your mistakes is not easy, but when when you deny your mistakes, I’m sorry to tell you this, but you’re not cool man! Sometimes, all it takes is a simple apology! However, if you have to follow your apology with, “but…” then perhaps you should stop talking. You’re either remorseful or you’re not! Can’t have it both ways!
Bossy: This is a a NO NO! Especially if you (hear me now) ARE NOT A BOSS!!! You make yourself look very silly when you delegate jobs for your colleagues when you weren’t asked to do so! When you take it upon yourself to be bossy, you are toxic!
Deceitful: Here is yet another trait that tends to make others not like you! If you make a mistake, own it! Don’t try to lie your way out of anything. You will be found out in the end! Promise! Plus, being deceitful makes you……..TOXIC!
Untrustworthy: Don’t be the person who breaks somebody else’s trust! If you are given information, don’t share without permission! Instead, be grateful that someone chose you as a confidant! The minute you break trust by “only sharing with so and so”, you become….you got it……TOXIC!
Unreliable: Do what you say you’ll do! It’s that simple! If you aren’t willing to show up and do what needs to be done, then sit down and be quiet. You don’t have to volunteer in order to be “seen”, especially if you are going to back out! Others want to know who they can count on! When you sign up, then you better be prepared to show up! Want to know why? Because when you are unreliable you ARE TOXIC!
Some of you are reading this and thinking, “duh!” But I promise there are really people out there that need to hear this! And if reading any of these legitimately offends you, you may already be a toxic person!
Old habits are hard to break, BUT the good news is, YOU CAN CHANGE!!! It is NOT too late to be the one who: 1. Takes responsibility. 2. Asks instead of demanding. 3. Is Truthful. 4. Is Trustworthy 5. Is Reliable. But you have to be willing to look in a mirror and be honest with yourself, otherwise others will always see you as……TOXIC!
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