Have you ever shared pieces of your story with someone that you knew without a doubt was your friend and it backfired? Or have you ever disliked someone so much and you knew without a doubt you would have nothing in common with them, but were proved wrong once you gave them a chance? It just so happens that I’ve had both of these things happen to me! And I figure, its probably more common than people want to admit! And that’s okay! That’s why I’m here……to be real and let you know, I understand!
I believe people are sent across our path to serve a purpose and help us through whatever we are going through at that particular time. And if we are lucky, we get to keep them as a friend for an even longer time! But for me, that’s not how it usually goes! I even had a friend tell me recently, “you sure have a lot of besties!” Although the truth is, I really don’t! I am however lucky and blessed enough to have: my childhood bestie, my “saving grace” bestie (who lives out of town now), and of course my bestie that lives here and has heard my story from beginning to end and has never judged me! All 3 of these people mean so much to me because they have been with me through a whole bunch of highs and a whole bunch of lows and they’ve never left! We may not talk every day and only see each other once every other month, but without a doubt each bestie would be there for me in an instant if that’s what was truly needed! And when we do get to catch up, we start right where we left off without missing a beat! These are my peeps, friends for the remaining of time, and the ones that have kept me going when life got hard!
Going through people that I thought were friends, was hard! There are actually more people who have ended up being a foe than I’d like to admit! Some of them know some deep secrets, and that’s bothersome! Because when I open up, I tend to say WAY too much because I never anticipate the friendship ending! Unfortunately, sometimes, it just does and it would do me no good to dwell on what I THOUGHT I had! I can seriously count no less than 10 people who I TRULY thought cared about me, and it was all a lie, in one way or another! Looking back, I have to just laugh and move on, otherwise I would waste a whole lot of tears! At this point, I just have to say, “so long” and focus on the ones who are in my life to stay!
I think it’s really important that everybody has a bestie. And if you’re lucky enough to have more than 1, then you are blessed beyond measure! For the people who have entered your life and walked out, let it go! Literally! Stop dwelling on it and walk away! They weren’t for you! If there’s that one person that you keep crossing paths with, maybe you should give them a chance! You might be surprised at how some friendships come to be when neither person was looking! I do think when we try to force a friendship to happen, we are sometimes setting ourselves up for disappointment! If it’s meant to be…great, if not, move on! But don’t be so quick to brush someone off, you never know when they may be the very person who is the nearest and dearest in the end!
Enjoy Every Moment 