Don’t wait for the invite

Man, I can’t be the only person who wants to be included! I also can’t be the only one who wishes that I was “one of them” from time to time. And I for sure can’t be the the only person who hopes, for just once, that I will be invited to a fun weekend get away where I know there will be lots of shared laughs and amazing memories made!

For most of my life I’ve ALWAYS wanted the things mentioned above! And when it never happened (90% of the time), I would seriously play the victim and I would find someone to take it out on which usually ended up being my husband……he’s still here, so he must really love me!And because hind sight is always 20/20, I can see how immature I was and how ridiculous I acted! The sad thing is, my fit throwing never changed the outcome! I STILL never got invited! LOL!

So take it from me and learn a valuable lesson……..don’t wait for the invite! Stop focusing on the groups who aren’t your people, stop watching the crowds who overlook you, and for the love of everything good, stop staring at the cliques who pass you by……..you wouldn’t be happy anyways! Am I right? Thought so!

If you want to be loved, acknowledged, seen, and heard, then speak up! Ask others what they are doing! Make a plan and do the inviting! Be the one to initiate something you want to be part of! When you stay silent, others have no way of reading your thoughts! Too many times to count I’ve had others say to me, “I thought you’d be busy” or “we planned it last minute” and even straight up “we didn’t think you’d want to (fill in the blank)”! In my weird thought pattern, I always assumed (yes I know what that means), they were lying or being deceitful! So then I would make a point to NOT attend the next event when the invite WAS extended, out of pure spite! Well, that didn’t/hasn’t worked real well in my relationships either! At all!

Now that I’m older and realizing (admitting) the world truly doesn’t revolve around me (thanks mom), I have learned to step up and purposefully involve myself with those who love me. Instead of waiting for a phone call or text, I devise the plans I want to be involved in! When I havent seen my peeps, I invite them for dinner or a movie. When I’ve gone awhile without seeing my extended family, I ask them what they’re doing and I don’t feel bad for intruding! If I need time with my bestie, I call her and plan a coffee date!

So instead of sitting around and stepping on my bottom lip, I’ve learned to stop waiting on an invite, and speak up when I have a need! And more often than not, others are more than willing to find time for me! And there is even a bigger chance that they’ve needed some time with me, and just haven’t gotten around to asking!

Life happens, and it happens fast! Don’t wait on others to fulfill your needs! And don’t hesitate to be the one to reach out! We never know when neither will be an opportunity, so live life to the fullest in everything you do! And remember to have fun!