Have you ever let your words fly out of your mouth without thinking of how it will have a domino effect?! No? Just me? That’s a bummer! And not that I intend to be mean, sometimes I just start talking which often times makes the situation even worse and before I know it, I have a really deep hole dug and no idea how to get out of it.
In fact, just yesterday I lashed out without having all of the information I needed! And once my response was out there, thwre was pretty much no taking it back! Because ya know……screenshots! So I’m sure at this point I’ve managed to make a few more enemies. **sigh**
So how do I fix it? How do YOU fix it when you’ve messed up? I’m not exactly sure at this point. What I do know is, there needs to be a waiting period before I start hammering down and making excuses for what I said! And of course, there needs to be an apology! But I think where I go wrong is, I start with “I’m sorry ” followed by, “BUT”! NO! Just NO! If I can’t apologize and mean it and I still feel the need to follow with anything else, then that apology means nothing, especially to the ones I hurt.
One of my biggest faults is not taking time to digest what it is that was said to me or that I read (thanks FB) before I start typing fast and furiously! Im still learning that not everyone is against me! And for me, that is a hard lesson to learn! I’m a very defensive person and it causes a lot of regret!
What I do know is, I can only apologize (SINCERELY), and move on! At that point, it is up to the person/people I hurt to accept it or not. I use to dwell on every situation and that takes A LOT of energy! It also robs me of what is going on in the here and now! So for now, I will continue to work on being silent (when I’m mad) and learn to apologize quickly!
You get the same choice! Will you spit fire or learn to stay silent first?! Will you apologize or justify? Will you dwell on the unforgivness or keep going, knowing you tried?! Words do hurt snd unfortunately they can’t be taken back!
Choose wisely!
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