If only…

How would you finish that sentence? What exactly is it that you would do, if you could, whether it be the past, present, or future?!

For me, I would go back and change my attitude! Are there things in life I would do differently? Of course! But at the same time, everything I have been through has made me who I am today!!! So mine is, “if only I had allowed myself to be in better control my emotions and/or my attitude.”

But…….since nobody has invented a time machine and most likely won’t, I’ll have to just start right now with how I want to proceed in life. And hear me when I say………IT’S NOT EASY! I’ve had some major psycho moments y’all and and learning how to reign in the anger and take deep breathes before responding takes A LOT of self discipline! But in the end, it’s better to start now, right?!

So what is your, “if only”? And what do you need to do to work toward it? If it’s in the past, you get to decide how you will move forward. If it’s in the here and now, what is stopping you? And if it’s in the future, how can you work toward what you’d like to see happen?!

There will always be those “if only” moments that you can’t do anything about, so you have to choose how you will accept what cant be changed and move on. For me, it would be the death of my mom! No matter how much I look back and reflect I will never be able to change that she isn’t here! So the next best thing is to keep her memory alive and know without a doubt that she would be proud of me!

Self esteem, self confidence, and knowing your self worth plays a huge role in the things you would like to see happen in your life. And you only get one go round in this journey. So please, make sure you are surrounding yourself with those who are building you up and guiding you in the right direction!

Turn your “if only” into a “this is how I will” by making a plan. Make a short term plan or a long term plan, but make one. Don’t forget to include small goals so you can remind yourself of your progress. And when you fall and get off track, get up and start again!