Hurt or Heal

What are you holding onto that you need to let go of so you can heal?

I am 41 years old and I am very good at recalling all the past hurts from my childhood, teens, and even the things my husband did or didn’t do in our marriage (then or now)! And all that does is slows down my ability to be able to heal from all of those because I can’t/won’t let them go! For some strange reason, I feel if I let them go, then it’s like they didn’t happen! Although that couldn’t be further from the truth! And even though I can tell YOU that, I’m still not fully convinced of it myself! But what I do know is, every time I share my story, a little piece of hurt falls off, and my heart begins to mend!

That might sound like such an easy fix….share your story……heal. Unfortunately, I think sometimes, we stay in the “hurt” zone because it gives us a reason to be mad, angry, or frustrated at said situation or more often than not, a person! And when we hang onto hurt/blame then we feel justified in our actions. BUT, we are very much hurting ourselves in the long run. For me, any attention ws good attention, So I would sulk/pout so someone would ask me what was wrong. Wow! This sounds really immature! Can you say embarrassed?! But I wonder how many other people enjoy staying hurt?! Im just not convinced I’m the only person who has done this! And maybe there is someone reading right now that is in this stage of life and you’re looking for advice. Well, my advice is…..choose healing! Letting go of hurt DOES NOT mean what was said/done to you is okay! It means that you are choosing happiness! You are choosing health! You are choosing to move past the things you cannot change!

Letting go so you can heal is a hard process (at least it was for me)! I had to choose (still do) to move on, EVERY SINGLE DAY! It means finding the joy in the here and now, and when your mind is use to focusing on the troubles, there has to be a reset and learn to change your way of thinking. You can journal, call a loved one, or tell your dog! But be very specific about the things that made you smile. The more you can name, the better. Do this every day and watch yourself transform into a person who decided to choose healing over hurting!